The Unforgettable

imagesSteven Kuchuck’s  beautiful piece, The Patient I Abandoned, in today’s NY Times “The Couch” opinion column so perfectly describes the emotions clinicians hold when rapid or abrupt endings occur in therapy. Even when the ending is planned and prepared for, by therapist and client, often the issues, challenges, hopes and aspirations continue to live on in the memory of the clinician.  It is the rare client that is forgettable to the therapist, but some have particularly deep impacts on us perhaps due to the depth of the feelings and history sorted through,  a unique connection,  or working together during particularly intense or poignant moment in the client’s (or clinician’s life).  We do not forget our clients, and I believe, whether or not we all consciously admit, we wish that our clients don’t forget us.